Fall Up Community Feature: Carolina

Hi Fall Up Community,

Some of you are familiar with Fall Up’s community member, Carolina — since coming into our orbit she’s been a consistent Circle attendee, and has been just as committed to growing through her grief in her Mentorships.

Carolina has experienced enormous loss, and has, through her time in Circles and Mentorship, grown into the truth that her losses don’t define her. 

I’m excited for you to hear from her and the wisdom she has found from healing and integrating with her grief. 

Thank you, Carolina, for sharing your heart and your healing with us. 

Remember: all of our stories have medicine for each other, and together we fall up. 

With love,

Jasmin

Carolina

A COUPLE OF FUN FACTS

Favorite comfort food:
Chocolate

Favorite feel good movie:
Sista

We believe that to “fall up,” through your grief is to embrace your grief as an invitation to grow and transform, but what does “fall up,” mean to you?

For me it means that when you are in a dark place, where you feel like you cannot get out, no matter what you do, you can and you will, with the support of Jasmin and Fall Up. Jasmin welcomes you, helps you understand your grief, and consistently lets you know that all of your grief feelings are valid.

Where are you most practicing “falling up,” in your life right now?

I am most practicing “falling up,” by showing up for my healing, and by being open to receiving whatever information I need, in order to continue growing through my grief.

Which invitation from The Fall Up Method (the pause, the breath, the feeling, the healing), is calling to you most now? And how are you embracing this calling? 

The invitation that calls to me most is that of “the healing,” which reminds me that my grief journey is a process and that grief is not healed overnight. I am embracing this by recognizing my grief feelings and by becoming more comfortable with sitting with them, knowing that whatever comes up is coming up to be healed.

Anything you want to share about what you’re grieving or what you’re celebrating right now?

I AM GRIEVING:

In the very moment of the loss of my son, I was in a dark place — a place that caused me to have anxiety and depression. In time I found Jasmin and Fall Up, and I was able to get myself out of that dark place. Through this, I discovered that grief is a part of life, and that even though it hurts, in opening myself to consistent support, I have been able to get through the darkest parts of my grief. When my son died, I was angry, disappointed, sad, and cried a lot. I did not understand why I was feeling certain things, but through my Grief Mentorships with Jasmin, I have moved through the darkest parts of my grief — and found growth.

I AM CELEBRATING:

I can now say that my grief journey is a healing process and it does not happen overnight or even in a set number of years. It takes time and requires patience, but eventually you get to know the new you. 

For those who may be hesitant to begin their grief healing and integration journey, what words of wisdom would you like to offer to them? 

Take the first step, get help, talk to someone. Love yourself, be patient with yourself, and reach out and receive support through Jasmin and Fall Up. They have helped me through my tough time. Without them I don’t know where I would have been. Know that it’s a work in progress, and that your heart can be healed, but you have to work at it. Don’t give up.

Photos: Carolina with her children, including her late son, Hadith.